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Emotional and Spiritual Maturity
Most of us would define ourselves as mature adults, usually in control of our emotions. Then something happens and we surprise ourselves at how quickly and thoroughly we can fall apart, our emotions scrambled, feeling so out of control that we wonder whether we will ever be normal again. How did we go from feeling mature and in control to immature and out of control? The answer lies in whether we are spiritually or emotionally mature and how we ground that energy in our life.
Many clients ask me why their lessons are so challenging. My response is that it appears that way because the most challenging lessons always involve something that really matters to us. We notice the issues that put us face to face with every fear, doubt, insecurity, and emotion that we have kept hidden. Why can’t we be mature, calm and objective in these situations? We can if we are acting from our spiritual maturity instead of trying to control our emotions and justify our experiences through them.
Without the knowledge, confidence and support that we get from spirit we rely on our ego’s maturity level to get us through whatever we are facing. And its maturity level is at the first trauma we experienced in our life, plus all of the emotional baggage we carry. Since every issue we face is an opportunity to heal our emotional wounds and to bring us into spiritual maturity, no wonder we get stuck, overwhelmed and feel out of control. We’re looking at the problem from its ego perspective instead of moving into a higher one. The clarity we seek and maturity we need come from spirit, not from the ego.
Clarity takes on a whole new meaning with spiritual maturity because we are not looking for validation or confirmation of our worthiness, our intention is on healing and we are open to the truth in whatever way it is presented to us. With spiritual maturity we can ask ‘what is next’ instead of the ‘why is this happening to me’ and use the answers we receive to complete that level of growth and healing. With clarity we have the truth we need, although not necessarily the answers the ego wants. But with truth and clarity we can complete our lessons and move into more joyful, peaceful, loving, mature and controlled living.
The Energies of December
It’s finally the last month of what has been a challenging year but not as much as previous years. This month may seem to move slowly because there will be many opportunities to complete work we have been doing all year and that includes the final release of beliefs, people, situations and memories that we have been working on since 1995. To give us support Mercury is retrograde all month, Venus is re-tracing its retrograde path until the 21st and we have a full moon lunar eclipse on the same day. I hope you’re ready to let things go because it has moved from ‘optional’ to ‘required’.
The Mercury retrograde is probably the most significant thing we have this month because it meets up with Pluto for nearly a week. This is a highly transformative energy that removes all obstacles to change—with the power to vaporize anything in its path (think of Darth Vader). I have always thought of Mercury as being strongly associated with karma so be prepared to face your karmic cycle challenges with the purpose of ending them forever. If you do not know what they are right now, don’t worry, when they come up you will know. A hint: watch for anything or anyone who makes you very angry or pushes your buttons in a way that‘s hard to ignore..
Then there’s the full moon eclipse which is at 29 degrees of Gemini. This is the third full moon that has occurred at the last degree of a sign and that is very significant, given that this year has been about endings, releasing blocks, and completing karma. And on this day Venus moves out of its shadow and Mercury passes a 29 degree mark in its retrograde. Mars will meet with Pluto two days before the eclipse. Do you think there is going to be some serious ‘ending energy’ happening around Christmas week? Pay attention to what happens at your family gatherings during this period.
The focus for this month is on how you want to enter the new year. What intentions do you want to set for yourself and what do you need to do to be ready to fulfill them? December will help you let go of anything that stands in your way. In other words, what have you outgrown that you can now leave behind knowing that as soon as you do something else will take its place that is aligned with your new intention? As you go through this month don’t regret or resist what leaves your life, as many things probably will. Instead, make a list of your new life intentions and let that be your focus as you allow this energy of completion to help you remove anything that blocks you from the peace, joy, prosperity, abundance and love that you want in your life. Have a wonderful month.
Uriel’s Message – Forgive Generously
Giving forgiveness to others is what allows you to release them and you from your souls’ shared karmic journey. This is more than an optional step on your journey, it is required for you to move from karma to creation, from the path of destiny into your role of co-creator with the Universe. Without forgiveness you are blocked from receiving the fullness of the divine guidance, blessings, support and grace that allow for joyful, effortless living. That is why you should apply forgiveness generously, fully and completely to everyone.
So often that which you must forgive has been the source of great pain, coming from those who have wounded you to the depths of your soul. You struggle with what they have done, try to understand their reasons and motivations, and wonder why they can be so cruel. You question whether you can forgive them and their actions as you feel this is a form of approval or acceptance. But you think this way because you have a limited awareness of your journey with them.
You are asked to forgive so that you can end karma and what you know of others through your pain is where you are the receiver. In other lifetimes you have been the one who caused pain, consciously or unconsciously, and what you are receiving is the other side of this cycle. The cycle repeats because everyone is reliving what has been done, again and again, over the course of lifetimes. It is not possible to undo what has already been done, but you can stop these cycles from repeating, which is held in your choice to forgive.
When you forgive you are only focused on ending the karmic cycle. Nothing else is part of that decision. The choice is not whether you can forgive others or whether they have done the unforgivable, but whether you want to end your karma with them, to be free of these cycles and the patterns they create in your life. This is a choice you make for yourself, so you can be free of these energies. You do not make this choice on behalf of anyone else. So forgive generously, fully and completely; give the gift of forgiveness to everyone in your life and free yourself of the connections that have defined your life until this moment so that new paths, possibilities and potentials open for you.
The Caring we Share
Whether it’s through emails or on Facebook or Twitter, there are so many examples of the caring that we give to each other as Indigos and Crystals. We know that we share similar life paths, experiences, challenges and doubts. And we don’t hide the fact that we are as confused as anyone else, have questions that we cannot answer and often have trouble dealing with the world. Instead, we share these fears and concerns with others and find comfort in knowing that they feel them too and are happy to support us.
There was a time, and for some people this is still true, when we had to hide our doubts and insecurities because they were a sign of weakness. Everyone had to know their place in the world or convince others that they did. ‘Fake it until you make it’ was what we believed we had to do in order to learn how to navigate the world. And if we told someone we were scared or unsure, they would not be supportive or would think that we were incompetent. We were afraid to show our fear because others might take advantage of us (and sometimes they did) or we felt that we were the only ones who felt that way.
Today we have so many different ways of connecting with people who are just like us, and who are more than happy to find kindred spirits who feel the same way they do. And what we have found is when we share from the point of our fear we connect to those who can help us. We no longer have to pretend we know all of the answers, we can share our questions and find someone who has a similar experience and through what they have learned we can learn too.
Our new connecting networks allow us to share our lives because we teach from what we know and have learned. No one has all of the answers but through our shared questions we all find the answers we seek that will make our lives easier. Our fears, doubts and insecurities are the vehicles through which we learn, teach and help others. The more we share them openly and honestly the more we understand and give someone else the gift of understanding.
December 1, 2010 at 6:33 am
You are so definitely right on the exact fine line which is truth.